Notes                    Romantic Relationships         27 December 2024


   Throughout the past year, I've often found myself thinking about
   something that really interests me: romantic relationships and their
   place in my life.  I've had several cool and promising relationships
   in the past, but I have to admit, it all felt more like a game or an
   experiment.  I never felt I truly needed it - I was just trying to
   figure out how it could fit into my life and what role it might play.

   At the start of December, I came to two realisations: first, that
   romantic relationships don't interest me as much as they used to, and
   second, that even thinking about them creates unnecessary
   expectations in my life.  So I decided to give up on romantic
   relationships for good.  This new decision is similar to my views on
   antinatalism, which I adopted earlier in life and which I doubt I'll
   ever change my mind about.  It's the same with this.

   In the past, I might have felt uncomfortable about this decision
   raising questions among my friends, but I recently discovered there's
   actually a term for it: aromanticism - when someone doesn't feel the
   need for romantic relationships.  That's exactly me.  I don't want to
   belong to anyone, and I don't want anyone to belong to me.  I don't
   want to be obligated to someone, and I don't want anyone to feel
   obligated to me.  Simple as that.

   I decided to share this little note on my weblog because I think it's
   important to talk about these things that people rarely discuss.
   Without these conversations, such positions might seem marginal to
   some, even though there's nothing wrong with having personal
   preferences about how to live your life and where to direct your
   attention.  I'm not afraid to say this openly and possibly seem
   different to others - and you shouldn't be afraid to be who you are
   either.





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